Have you ever noticed how some people only give others the types of gifts they enjoy without considering what the other person might prefer? Have you ever been the recipient of that BBQ grill for Christmas when all you really wanted was a gift certificate to your favorite day spa?
Just as holiday gifts need to be personalized in order to be received with enthusiasm and genuine gratitude, so must the gift of "Thanks" for a job well done. Have you ever thought of how you liked to be thanked or complimented? What was your response when you received a compliment that struck the wrong chord with you?
The next time you thank someone for a job well done, consider first what words they'd receive as praise, rather than what you'd want to hear. Determine their behavioral style and phrase your compliment accordingly.
For example, following are some typical styles with suggested compliments:
- Dominant, goal-oriented "D" - Be specific by saying "You saw what needed to be done and did it."
- Influential, social "I" - Praise them publicly and tell them, "You're amazing!"
- Steady, supporting "S" - Quietly let them know how you appreciate their follow-through and perseverance.
- Compliant, analytical "C" - Reinforce how their analytical ability caused you to avoid future complications.
How might you change the way you thank the people in your personal or professional life?
This week, I'm challenging you to sincerely compliment 5 people for something they've done for you or your organization in the way they would want to be recognized. Perhaps they might just start thanking you.
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